JOURNEY TO SERENITY

In acceptance, there is peace.

…was the quote written in front of my notebook. HOW did I miss such a helpful wisdom?

IF we dissect the very essence of this quote, we can come to terms with the REAL cause of our misery: REFUSAL TO ACCEPT REALITY.

This is not easy. I bet this is a struggle commonly and hardly faced by people at different extent (longevity, variety, dosage…etc.)

I’m no LIFE EXPERT. I couldn’t even claim that I lived my life to the fullest, yet, I can say I was able to SURVIVE my LIFE’s most trying MOMENTS when I began to accept situations as they are.

It’s hard to wake up in a day when everything is totally not the same as it used to be. Probably, one of the worst days I’ve ever had was the time when the person I used to value the most refused to stay with US.

BUT I learned to accept. IT helped me.

YEARS passed, that person went back. I felt the same so I did accept.

Perhaps it’s best to get used to accepting things as they are especially when change is impossible…

This principle applies to wide range of experiences, from the trivial to the most crucial.

In my case, I learned to accept that Internet connection could be as unstable as any relationship. Acceptance suits any circumstances.

Join the journey with me… towards serenity…it pays to master the art of acceptance.

PEACE be with us.

PARTY POOPER

There I was, with my favorite cousin, attending a Children’s party. Frustration with my computer brought me there at Mc Donalds, partying with a bunch of hyperactive KIDS and pretending to be KIDS (i.e. grannies, aunts, Uncles, and semi-adults like me).
WE (me & my cousin) were quietly seated at the corner, when the HOST suddenly pulled us to the center to join his game show. I was a bit surprised yet eager to have fun, I listened attentively to the mechanics until he mentioned the forbidden word: DANCE!

WHOA!!!me? NEVER. He wasn’t satisfied with plain dancing, he asked US to SPELL SOS with our BUTT. DUH!
Well, sorry for sounding KJ <kill joy>, but NOBODY could ever force me to do what I DREAD. And I was able to prove it, I guess.

I didn’t mean to snatch the scene, yet he (the HOST or HOSTESS???) wouldn’t allow me to BACK OUT, hence when it’s my turn to do that absurd dance MOVE, I RAN OUT.

Several thoughts filled my mind as I was heading to the comfort room. I SHOULD have eaten a humble pie, and “just did it for fun”. I was too proud perhaps. Hmm, well, honestly, I just didn’t want to be a ‘laughing-stock‘. I have nothing against having FUN, so long as it isn’t at my expense. I rationalized: I can eat at MCDO from my own pocket. Mmmm, here I go again with my arrogance.

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A JOKE can be a great source of fun and entertainment, yet I’ve read somewhere that it isn’t all good as it claims to be.

Observe a group. Someone might be considered the life of the party, as that person’s presence keeps everybody howling with laughter, sad to say, that happens at the expense of someone -PREDATOR and PREY kind of killing scene.

It is diminishing, not helping someone’s self-esteem. Of course, no one will admit he’s hurt in front of a laughing crowd. Hence, the pain of being humiliated grew as it is remained kept.

I wonder if there is such a perfect group that exist, in which, one is neither inferior nor superior to someone,

Wherein there isn’t someone dominating the talk…but everybody contributes, everyone shares something for the benefit of the members…

Wherein, everyone has the right to be listened to not having to worry about what he has to confess…

I just can’t stop thinking of an IDEAL GROUP -healthy enough to nurture strength, and overcome weaknesses of its members.

Hmmm, too idealistic – that’s what’s causing me distress.

I should not ask why. A circle composed of imperfect people won’t ever form a perfect group.

I’m not perfect either.

Thus, it’s impossible I can belong to a perfect clique. (Issa>>> DREAM ON.)

Sure Ways to Escape the Island of Loneliness (In Theory)

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” (Leo Buscaglia)

My insomniac tendencies didn’t help to produce a good post, so I slept on it. This morning, I came across this quote while I was to fetch up for some inspiration.

I remembered Buscaglia, the ultimate LOVE advocate. He’s a huge man with a huge heart. He writes with passion, and his books talk nothing else but love. He knows no greater word than love. Well, he’s just about right; I couldn’t agree more that everybody needs love – in different forms, in different shades, at varied intensities…

Now that I decided to be on my own, apart from the security and care of the people who used to cherish me, I find myself drifting along a lonely sea.

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(Noon, inaakala ko na hindi ko naman kailangan ng makakasama, sumisigaw ang puso ko sa labis na kalungkutan.

Habang inisip ko ang kinabukasan, nalulumbay ako sa pag-iisang naghihintay.

Napagninilay kong hindi ako nakakapagtanim ng relasyon na may sapat na lalim.

Nakakatuwa, ang pinsan ko, sinisita ako sa pag-eemote ko sa blog na ito. hahaha…sabi nya, may nobela na naman daw syang babasahin. Ewan ko, naniniwala ako na may kontrol tayo sa mga nangyayari sa buhay natin pero bakit tila sa kalagayan ko, palaging napapapadpad na lang ako ng alon kung saan nya ibig?

‘I visualize myself as a lonesome boat in the middle of the sea.’

Weird, because people used to think of me as a PERSON with lots of friends but my heart seems to be empty. LOST friendship ba ang drama? Sabi, kapag kinakain ang puso mo ng kalungkutan, may mga bagay kang pwedeng gawin (ito ay ayon lang naman sa nabasa ko):

1. Humanap ka ng taong KAILANGAN KA

2. Palawakin mo ang MUNDO mo

3. Ayusin…AYUSIN ang NASIRANG RELASYON

Kung sa palagay mo, pansamantala ay nakatakas ka na sa ISLA ng PAG-IISA, mag-isip kasi may isa pang pwedeng gawin:

4. DUMEPENDE ka sa pinakamatibay na ANGKLA. Dapat ayusin ang relasyon sa MAylikha. <ito marahil ang pinakamahirap, lalo na kung kagaya kita na matagal-tagal din naglibang, nakuntento sa ibang pampalipas ng oras>

Gaano ko ba kailangan ang Diyos sa buhay ko? Hanggang saan ba SYA may pakialam sa nangyayari sa akin? Gaano nya ba ako kamahal?

Sa mga tanong ko…

Tahimik sya.)

(papansinin kaya nya mula sa langit ang post na ito? may panahon kaya sya sa akin?)

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MY FIRST GREETER ON MY BIRTHDAY

Happy Birthday to you!!

I have wanted to be the first person who celebrates your birthday
this year both Korean time and Philippine time since I came to know your birthday is Sep. 15th.

I thank God who sent you to this world through your parents for giving me the chance to know you.

You don’t know how happy I am when I am with you on the internet or on the phone even though I have never seen you in person.

I hope your everything goes well and you are always healthy in Jesus Christ.

I want to be your student and a close friend who is always with you and could be of help to you until I die, but I am not sure it is possible because it’s up to you.

Thank you for being there (being alive) so that I can feel you.

Let me tell you something about a gift for you after 1 am (Korean time) to celebrate your birthday Philippine time one more time.

(from Julia)

 

How TO turn wrong Investment/s into Profit

Life is deeply affected by ECONOMICS. We need to understand the basic principles in Investment to gain financial, emotional, intellectual and even spiritual profits.

This is not to speak of my story…just some general truths.

In investing, we have to learn that the world is full of trickery. Reality BITES. We dread falsehood as none of us can tolerate PRETENSE. But all of us seems to be prone to insincerity no matter how careful we try to be… or however kind or nice we are.

Each of us is vulnerable as everyone makes investments in many different forms – time, effort, money…alas…EMOTION! WE value most the person we invest most of these RESOURCES.

What’s my point? It is wise not to invest everything you have on a relationship: single person, business, or group… IT is but prudent to spare some for oneself. When you are deeply drawn to a person, it is but safe to lie low…

What if you’ve invested your resource to someone/something truly and hopelessly unprofitable? Do you feel like you have been a loser? Or do you pity yourself for being so weak, so stupid and so unlovable?

The TIME you spent on SELF-pity is the time most wasted. You will go broke if you stop moving…when you cease living. Action can help you get over a loss – no matter how big or small. A loving friend can give you fresh comfort when you feel like the world has shut itself from you. A loving GOD…daily reminds us…through the abundance of beauty found in nature…that WE ARE LOVED and CHERISHED by HIM.

Now, can we turn our wrong investment into profit?

Gain confidence…That’s for sure!^^

 

The SECRET OF A FOCUSED LIFE

MEANINGLESS…everything is absolutely MEANINGLESS”… as quoted by King Solomon, the wisest and wealthiest person who ever lived.

I couldn’t believe HIM. How could a person living a seem-to-be PERFECT EXISTENCE – lots of wives, great wealth, fame, intelligence- come up with such a statement?

Am I missing the point of life? I’ve been working for more than a year…really working hard…striving to reach the digits I need to help my family, my relatives, my friends, and of course, myself. I desire money like everyone else…so I couldn’t settle for less. Nowadays, I somehow feel like I lost myself in the process… all of a sudden, I came to understand that my life has been hollow and shallow in the past years.

This morning, while I was talking with my student <a 27-year-old English teacher in Korea>, she asked me this question: “what drives your life?” Coincidentally, that question has been playing on my mind since I last post a blog entry. (i.e. what makes life worth living?)

In my previous post, I remember I said, “PURPOSE determines the worth of my existence.” My student went far by emphasizing the importance of KNOWING ONE’s PURPOSE.<She has been reading the book PDL by Rick Warren, (I’ve seen this in bookstores…but never thought of buying a copy for myself…)

Well, this is the most interesting part; she elaborated the benefits one can get in KNOWING one’s PURPOSE:

“Knowing one’s purpose focuses your life, simplifies your life, motivates your life, gives meaning to your life and most importantly, prepares your life for eternity.”

If this is so.. then… missing one’s purpose of living leads to the opposite… oh, how I dread it!

I realized…I only have one life to live; it is worth contemplating how I am going to live it…

(Hmmm) I’d better search for my PURPOSE.

I hope you’ll be driven to do the same. It is worth our time and effort to identify our REAL PURPOSE.